Monday, October 30, 2017

Triple the one-on-one time.....

My triplet ballerinas are my grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
When your grandchildren are the same age and looking for a little attention, giving one-on-one time is almost mandatory. Especially when they get it from their parents and expect it from their grandparents too. Unless there are rules attached, it can easily get out of control though. When they were little, it didn't matter how many times they each got their own individual one-on-one time, they wanted more, more, more time with Grandma, so we decided to stop it. This summer, I started it back up thinking they would handle it better. They each stayed overnight alone once during the summer, but, again, they wanted more, so I would add time here and there during the day for some mini one-on-one time, but, again, it quickly got out of control with them clamoring for even more. I ended it once again and think I will stick to just one individual overnight one-on-one time for each of them during the summer. Hopefully, I will be able to stick to this new Grandma decree, but you never know....  Beverly                      My Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

A New Arrangement

Guest Blogger:  Megan J.

My triplet ballerinas are my daughters, Makenna Anne, Jaeli Jo and Maysie Jailyn.
For the last year or so, Jaeli and Maysie have shared a bedroom and Makenna has had her own bedroom. Her room is closest to the train tracks about 3 blocks from our house. For a few months now, Makenna has been worried and scared about the train running into our house and into her bedroom. I've found her sleeping under her bed, in her closet, in the hallway and in my bedroom due to her fear. She asked if she could switch rooms with her sisters (I guess she doesn't care if it runs them over!). I told her "no" because their room is bigger than hers. We finally compromised and she has moved back into the bigger bedroom with her sisters. Her old bedroom now stores all of their toys. They also each have their own wall and closet for themselves in one room or the other. So far, they are getting along with this new arrangement. We will see though how bedtime goes every night and if they continue to get along!

Beverly's Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Friday, August 11, 2017

Another school year begins for these triplets....

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
It's that time of year for the triplets to go back to school. They will be in 3rd Grade this year. Once again, they are in different classrooms with different teachers. After this was suggested by the school when they first started Kindergarten, it has become standard every year, through all-day Kindergarten, two years of First Grade (they were held back from Second Grade but was able to keep the same teacher both years), last year in Second Grade and this year in Third Grade. This year, for the first time, it seems that all three girls have been assigned to teachers that complement their personalities, which is a gift since that doesn't always happen. When one of the girls is assigned a teacher that they don't really connect to, she then usually struggles through the school year. For the first time, one of the triplets (Makenna) has a male teacher. It will be interesting to see how that plays out, but it should be fine since Makenna does so well in school in any situation. So, back to school bus rides, making school lunches, and homework. Another school year begins.....  Beverly
Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Monday, July 10, 2017

Triplet Drama

Guest Blogger:  Megan J.

My triplet ballerinas are my daughters Makenna Anne, Jaeli Jo and Maysie Jailyn.
There is bound to be drama when you have three daughters in the house. But, with three daughters of the same age, the drama is exaggerated beyond what words can explain! I can’t even imagine what life will be like in just a few short years when the teenage hormones hit. I am scared, very scared! Now, at age 9, the drama usually consists of problems related to not sharing or who is wearing whose clothes, and most commonly, “they won’t play what I want to play”. This is a constant struggle and a battle I dread each day. The girls do not realize yet how lucky they are to have two sisters their age. They have a companion and someone to play with and talk to every day. Our identicals, Jaeli and Maysie, have much in common and their fraternal sister, Makenna, struggles daily to feel included. As they get older, I hope they find special bonds between each other and one day realize how precious their sisterhood really is. I can see it now: boy drama, attitude drama, friend drama, competition drama, and oh so much more I am sure! I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. Even with as much fighting that has been going on lately, I am still seeing how fast they are growing. So, I know I need to take a step back and enjoy the time I have with them while they are still young.

Beverly's Facebook Page: The Triplet Ballerinas

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

A missing triplet!

My triplet ballerinas are my grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie. Recently, Makenna went out of town for a week with her aunt so the triplets were split up with Jaeli and Maysie staying home. When I took these two anywhere that week, there was still the inevitable multiples question of whether they were twins. So, how should you answer that or should you even answer it? You could simply nod or simply reply, "Yes, they are," because of course they are actually twins. Or, you could say, "Yes, but they are twins in triplets with their fraternal triplet who is not here right now." (What a mouthful, but I have been known to say it!) Or, the best one, "No, they are triplet sisters with their other sister." These last two usually get the biggest reaction of, "Wow, triplets," even with one triplet not there. It was a long week feeling like something (SOMEONE!) was missing. We were all happy when the triplet sisters were back together the way they were meant to be.  Beverly
My Facebook page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Triplet Friends

Guest Blogger:  Megan J.

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet daughters, Makenna Anne, Jaeli  Jo and Maysie Jailyn.

I can't believe the triplets will be entering third grade next year!  One of the biggest struggles we have dealt with this year is making friends outside of their "triplet circle". They each struggle in finding their own identity and connecting with other girls, or even boys, their age. Unfortunately, their school splits the classes up each year, so they don't usually move onto the next grade with any friends they did make the previous year. This is really hard on them socially because it takes them awhile to get close with someone, and then once they do, they are taken away.  Sometimes, even their sister who ends up in a class with their old friend will become that sister's new friend. On a positive note, when one of the girls from their class invites them to a birthday party, they almost always invite all three. Although I would prefer only the one who is friends with them go, this might be good as time goes on. Hopefully, they will eventually gain the confidence to be friends with most of the girls in their class. The one thing I have been trying to get them to appreciate is that friends will come and go, but they will always have each other. My hope for them when they are all grown up is that they will be the best of friends and always be there for each other.


Beverly's Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Different Triplet Characteristics

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
As I said before, these triplet ballerinas have different personalities. Makenna is stubborn and curious. Jaeli is shy and quiet. Maysie is dramatic and fun-loving. It is easy to state the characteristics of these girls because it is real-life and true. It is not so easy though to make up different characteristics for your pretend triplet ballerinas and then convey these characteristics through action and dialogue. (See my Facebook page: The Triplet Ballerinas). I am working on portraying one triplet ballerina as determined, one as confident and one as hopeful. This is all still a work-in-progress though, so these different characteristics of my pretend triplet ballerinas may end up changing before I am done. I hope they don't though because I like the characteristics that I have given these pretend triplet ballerinas.  Beverly

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Triplet Friendships


Guest Blogger:  Megan J.

My triplet ballerinas are my daughters, Makenna Anne, Jaeli Jo and Maysie Jailyn.
One of the biggest struggles my triplet girls face is making friends outside of their "sister group". During their first couple years of school, it seemed very difficult for them to make new friends within their class. So, when Jaeli connected with a group of friends, we were thrilled and so excited for her. She developed a unique friendship with one of the girls in her group that was undeniably precious. They were very close and she talked about her every day. They would give each other hugs when they saw each other outside of school and had the occasional play date. Unfortunately, the decision to have the triplets repeat 1st grade was made due to them struggling academically. This was one of the toughest decisions we had to make. As they went through the next year, we knew it was the right decision based on their academic improvement. However, making new friends was still a big challenge. Two years later, they still struggle with it, and Jaeli seems to have the hardest time. She has yet to find that one friend she feels as close to as she did back then. Hopefully, over time, as they continue through the grades, they will develop stronger relationships outside of their "sister group" and become more social. We have been encouraging them to talk with others and simply ask if they will be their friend. It seems to be helping. But, in the long run, they will always have each other, which is something precious in itself.

Beverly's Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

It's only fair....

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
I am sure it's probably like this with most siblings, but these triplets are all about fairness. It doesn't matter what it is, if one gets it, the other two need to get it too or you will hear about it. It doesn't matter if it is food (especially candy), toys or even new clothes, it has to be fair and equal. This can sometimes be challenging to find three of the same or similiar, especially with clothes. Lots of times though, as long as it is something new and for them, they are happy. I suppose this started when they were young and it was fun to give them each something and see their faces light up. They were never far apart then so if you gave to one of them, you had to give to all three. Even though they are not always together now, you still have to buy or give three. It's only fair.....  Beverly            My Facebook page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

From "The Triplet Girl" to "The Triplet Ballerinas" (updated)

With my guest blogger on vacation and me busy working on my book, I decided to update a post from September 2016:

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
 In researching what I wanted my picture book story to be about, I took inspiration from where I could find it.  So, one day, when one of the triplets leaped off the couch, the idea of ballet was born.  I started researching ballet and ballerinas and found the book, "Ballerina: A Step-by-Step Guide to Ballet", which was very informative.  I decided to have one of the triplets be the most interested in ballet and the other two girls more interested in horses to make them seem boyish.  I found the book, "For Horse-Crazy Girls Only: Everything You Want to Know About Horses", which was also very informative about horses and ponies.  Sadly, through editing, I had to cut out some scenes that didn't fit and the "leaping off the couch scene" was one of the first to go.  But, it had served its purpose anyway by giving me the idea of ballet and ballerinas.  In one of my early critiques, the horses the girls got for their birthday were called "ponies" instead of "horses".  It dawned on me then that it would probably be better to have the triplets get the smaller, more manageable, ponies for their birthday than the bigger horses so the horses became ponies in the story.  At one time, the ponies even had names:  Jamie's (Jaeli) was "Beauty", Macie's (Maysie) was "Ella", and Annie's (Makenna) was "Snow."  But, eventually, I sadly had to cut this scene too.  The real-life triplets were not happy with this since they were the ones to name their counterpart's ponies.  Beverly

Update on my book: I decided to take my book in a different direction, so  I cut out the ponies and have made it all about ballet. I also changed the character name of Jamie to Julie to make her name sound more girly.  It is truly about "triplet ballerinas" now.                      

Facebook page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Triplet Characteristics

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
Lately, I have been working on revising my manuscript (see my Facebook Page: The Triplet Ballerinas). Right now, I am working on characterization of my pretend triplet ballerinas which brings to mind the characteristics that make up our own triplet ballerinas.

If I were to describe the character of Makenna, I would give her the characteristics of stubborness (she resists greatly the idea of even attempting to say "I'm sorry" when she is in the wrong), intelligence (she is very smart and studious), curiosity (she will read a factual book from the first page to the last to find out interesting facts and recite them), creativeness (her drawings and ideas are so good) and helpfulness (whenever she sees someone in need, she will help them out without being asked).

The first thing that comes to mind in describing Jaeli is shyness. This is something she was struggling with all the time so I gave her a diary of sorts to write in every day how she was feeling that day and to record how she made an effort to talk to at least one person. It is so great that Jaeli feels comfortable now in talking to people and doesn't need the crutch of the diary anymore. Jaeli would also be described as being sweet and nice. I would also say solitary and quiet would be words to describe her too.

As for Maysie, there is no doubt that dramatic fits her to a tee. I would also have to add emotional and moody too. When she doesn't like something, you know all about it. But, that's not all the time, just occasionally. She is also imaginative (she is always coming up with great ideas) and fun-loving (when she's not being moody!).

The triplets in my book will probably have some of these same characteristics, but I am sure they will all have their own individual characteristics as their counterparts do.  Beverly

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Identical Twins in Triplets


Guest Blogger:  Megan J.
My triplet ballerinas are my triplet daughters, Makenna Anne, Jaeli Jo and Maysie Jailyn.
When I was about 7 weeks along with my pregnancy, we learned we were having triplets. At this time, we were told they are all fraternal because they were in three separate sacs. It didn't really matter to us, we were just happy to have three babies and didn't think much of it after this.

After the triplets were born and in the NICU, we noticed right away that Jaeli and Maysie looked exactly the same. We even had trouble telling them apart. We only knew who was who because of the names the nurses put on their cribs. At only a few weeks old, we took the girls back to the hospital for pictures and had to remove Maysie's hip brace and Jaeli's heart monitor. After taking the pictures, it was time to put everything back on. This is the only time that I was ever confused about which one was Maysie and which one was Jaeli. Thankfully, I had previously painted Maysie's toe nail in case this would happen. This made me start to wonder though if Maysie and Jaeli were really fraternal. I remembered hearing from another triplet mom that she had her triplets tested with an at-home DNA test. This was very cheap and simple to do, so we decided to have it done. It was mostly so all of us would know when they were older if they are identical or not. I also knew we would have questions from outsiders as they grew up.
One day, the lab called and said they were emailing me the results but wanted to let me know that the test showed a 99% match for Jaeli and Maysie being identical twins. I was very excited and happy we took the test but was a bit frustrated with the doctors for telling us they are fraternal and not even suggesting the possibility that they are identical.
As Jaeli and Maysie have gotten older, it is easier now to tell them apart. They may be identical but they are also different in many ways. Like their triplet sister, Makenna, they both have their own individual personality that makes them their own person.  

Beverly's Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Three Triplet Ballerinas, Not Just One

My Triplet Ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
Recently, I decided to make a big change in the children's picture book I am writing (see my Facebook Page: The Triplet Ballerinas). My story has mostly been about just one of these triplet ballerinas. The reason for this was everything I read about writing a picture book said there should only be one main character. In the beginning, I decided Annie would be the main character out of the three girls, Jamie, Annie and Macie. Later, I switched the main character to Macie since she seemed to suit my story better. But, recently, I received a critique of my manuscript that encouraged me to write my story about all three triplet ballerinas since "rules are meant to be broken when you have a great idea." So, I am excited to begin my journey writing about three triplet ballerinas, not just one.  Beverly

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Lovin' Those Triplet Grandchildren

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
Is there any greater love than a grandmother for her grandchildren? Well, yes, the love of a mother for her children, but a grandmother's love is special too as is the love she receives in return. When I was first blessed with grandchildren (and three at once!), I thought it couldn't get better than that. But, with hugs and kisses and "I love you, Grandma" times three, the feelings are indescribable. Of course, some days, one or two will love you more than the other. And, I know, at times, like with all children or grandchildren, that love is tested, but it never goes away. So, in this month of LOVE, I will cherish any "I love you, Grandma" and hugs and kisses that are given as each one is very precious to me.   Beverly                       
My Facebook Page: The Triplet Ballerinas

(Starting with this month, I am only going to blog once or twice a month with a Guest Blogger once a month also.)

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Those Fightin' Triplets

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
As with all siblings, the triplets are prone to fighting with each other. Surprisingly, it is usually one-on-one instead of two against one. And, it is usually, but not always, Jaeli and Maysie who are arguing or fighting. Makenna tends to be the peacemaker. If they are fighting over a toy, headband, food or whatever, Makenna will usually run and find a substitute to whatever they were fighting over so that they both have something similar. Of course, sometimes Makenna finds herself in the middle of a fight and there is no one to save her since her sisters aren't as accommodating to her.Then, she just has to save herself. Most times, their squabbles are easily resolved by one solution or another and the three of them go back to being sisters and best friends. It is never boring being around the triplets, that is for sure.  Beverly
My Facebook page: The Triplet Ballerinas

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Triplet Individuality


Guest Blogger:  Megan J.
My triplet ballerinas are my daughters, Makenna Anne, Jaeli Jo and Maysie Jailyn. 
As triplets, the girls sometimes struggle finding their own identity. Many times, they are referred to as “the triplets” or even my identical twins within the set as “the twins” (more on "the twins" in my guest blog of next month). I, too, often do this and I need to be more considerate and refer to them as individuals. With all three in the same grade (but not classroom) at school, they “share” friends, and even a few cousins, close in age. Lately, Jaeli has been struggling to feel “seen”. At times, she has come to me with tears in her eyes and has said she feels invisible. She feels as though Makenna and Maysie get more attention and others want to be their friend, but not hers. This makes me very sad. Jaeli has the biggest heart of the three girls and, although she has a temper on her, she is the most loving and also the most shy. Jaeli and I have sat down and discussed ways we can make her feel more included and “seen”. Together, we decided a sleepover at her cousins by herself would be a great start. We will continue to find ways to help her discover who she is and how she can open herself up to make new friends outside of her sisters.
Beverly's Facebook Page:  The Triplet Ballerinas

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Mini Me Triplet

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
Of the triplets, Jaeli is probably the most like me. A few years ago, I noticed Jaeli and I had almost identical birthmarks. We have an obvious almost diamond-shaped one on our right arms by our shoulders and there is a small round one on one of our fingers. Jaeli is also shy like I am and struggles with it daily as I do sometimes. We both share a love of reading. She even read the whole book of "Green Eggs and Ham" when she was in First Grade. She also told me the other day (while she was reading a book) that she is always going to want to read a book just like me (while I was reading my Kindle) and commented on how alike we are. I also see bits of myself in Maysie, her "twin triplet", (more on that next month). While Jaeli is right-handed, Maysie is left-handed like me. They both, though, have my deformed little toes! Sad to say, I haven't found much of me in Makenna, but I will keep looking. I am so blessed to see myself in my grandchildren. It is an amazing thing.  Beverly            
My Facebook Page: The Triplet Ballerinas

Monday, January 2, 2017

A New Year, A New Age of Triplets

My triplet ballerinas are my triplet grand-daughters, Makenna, Jaeli Jo and Maysie.
The triplets were born on July 2nd, 2008, so when the Fourth of July comes around each year, we know it is about time for another birthday and a big birthday party. Before the triplets started school, it was mostly just family at the birthday parties. But now, there are three times the number of friends so, of course, there needs to be a big party with the friends each year. In 2013, Rapunzel came to visit. In 2014, they had a pool party. In 2015, it was a Princess birthday party after a trip to Disney World. Last year, they had an American Girl Tea Party with all their friends and dolls. No plans have been made yet for this year when the triplets turn 9, but I am sure it will be just as great. I can't believe this year's birthday will only be a year away from the triplets turning 10. It seems like just yesterday the triplets were babies and one year old. Now, they are young ladies and almost 9 years old. My, how time has flown.  Beverly     My facebook page: The Triplet Ballerinas